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It just happen!!!!

October 6, 2009

“3 for 150”..”3 for 150”..screamed a face which was almost covered by the crowd around him..His voice grew stronger with increase in number of customers at his stall which was located on the roadside.Aryan was amazed to see the whole lane lit of the Mehendi bazaar.It was the eve of last day before Ramzan.Every business in that lane looked to make the most profitable sales on this eve.And yes it could all be seen with a number of discounts and free offers.Add to this the roadside vendors were offering goods at throw away prozes.Aryan was accompanied by his Eeshaan who lived across Mehendi bazaar.”Every year this sight is the most that I love”,said Eeshaan.”Its not that we don’t celebrate other festivals;but this evening has its own significance.Today everyone from the family steps out to buy things for themselves.Be it a kurta or salwaar,dry fruit or shewayya for the surkumba,everything is bought with so much enthusiasm”.”Ya I am seeing it for the first time and trust me Eeshaan I am simply amazed by this sight;look at that old man selling those perfumes,looks like he wants to fill city with fragrance with all those perfumes in the glittering colourful bottles around him,even look at your fren Farhaan in his cloth shop;he s looking as cheerful as ever shoeing all the customers the best pieces of cloth he has.If I would have missed today,guess I would have really missed.Thanks to your bike which broke down and you had a SOS to me to pick you up from here”.

Aryan and Eeshaan were not exactly the best of frenz exactly a year ago.Infact both almost sported radical ideas in their approach towards life and their religion.Both were in the same college during their technical graduation course.And after a particular incident where Aryan had saved Eeshaan from getting suspended from the college they came close to each other.But this closeness too was cut short as Aryan had to leave to Mumbai for his post graduation course and Eeshaan stayed back in his city to join his Abba s grinding machine industry.But often during their vacations they would meet up and hang out together.This day too was one of those days where Eeshaan s bike had choked and best person he could ask for help was Aryan whom he was supposed to meet after an hour.Now both of them were walking through Mehendi Bazaar which was synonymous to “Anarkali bazaar” in Pakistan.It was filled with articles like bangles,bindis,exotic perfumes and this day was the best day to be there.

The street was crowded fully and there was little place was anyone to walk through comfortably.”I will just tell Ghani chacha to send someone from his garage to pick my bike from my house and repair;meanwhile you keep walking down I ll join you”,said Eeshaan.After a few steps Aryan could see the cops putting divider boards in the middle of the road.This was normally done to keep an eye on everyone on the street;it helped them in monitoring.So people on the road were pushed to the end of the road on either sides.Before he could make himself ready for the rapid shifting that was being done the cops pushed him on one side .He stepped on the plastic sheet on the road thus losing his balance he crashed into a person wearing a jet black burkha.His forehead collided with her left shoulder.She suddenly turned towards him.All he could see was lit up eyes behind the face covered burkha ,which were looking at him with anger as if he had done the act with all “Noble” intentions.Aryan exclaimed,”sorry sorry I jus lost my balance.Looking at his face which almost turned white with the fear for getting hit by people for misbehaving with a girl wrinkles appeared beside her eyes looking at which he understood she had smiled and a smile meant she had not taken him in the wrong way.But there were larger problems ahead.The street grew closer to a bottle neck which meant it was a single line through which both of them had walk one behind the other ;and to add to all this chaos the pushing of people from behind reminded Aryan of Mumbai locals.Inspite of the jerks from the people behind him Aryan kept distance from her nota allowing his body to touch even a bit.In the 5 minute walk to the end of the street the gal was amazed to see how this guy behind her kept a distance from her. He kept his eyes on her looking that she was walking safe.When the end of the street came and she passed the bottleneck channel she turned behind and looked at him.”Shukriya”,she said in possibly the sweetest voice he had ever heard.He just kept looking at those eyes and in few moments he was lost in them.The girl took a left walked away into the crowd.Just then he heard a voice which was calling him from far end of the road.It was Eeshaan who was standing outside the Kurta Store.Aryan moved towards store where Eashaan was looking at best kurtas in the whole of the bazaar.Try helping me to pick one,he said.Reluctantly Aryan started looking at the kurtas kept on the table.In his mind he still was lost in those eyes and word shukriya echoed on all four sides.Just then he heard,”Give that cream kurta which has a black lining on the front end”.Yes it was the same voice which was echoing in his mind from past few minutes.Again all he could do was look at those eyes trying to know what was so special about them.”Now Aryan will you pick one for me, I am really getting late”,Eeshaan said.”Give me that cream kurta which has a black lining on the front end”,Aryan asked person who was showing them kurtas in that table.Eeshaan exclaimed”I already have 3 of that colour,don’t want to buy one more of that colour.”.Its for me replied Aryan.You can buy any colour you want.”Oh k “said Eeshaan stuffed a black kurta in the shopkeepers hand and said “Pack it soon”.Meanwhile Aryan kept looking at the girl who was at the cash counter paying the bill.Eeshaan called out”Oye Mr.Aryan; come here and pay for your kurta.”Till Aryan and Eeshaan reached the counter the girl had gone.Soon after dropping Eeshaan home,he reminded Aryan “Ammi has asked you to come home tomorrow by 12 for lunch.Dont be late you ll miss out on the sweet which you like so much.”Aryan nodded and left.To say,he was simple lost in the “shukriya world”.

On the festive day Aryan arrived at Eeshaan s place wearing the brand new kurta he had purchased the previous day.He came in and greeted Eeshaan and his parents who were waiting for him.They all knew him as the guy who had saved Eeshaan from suspension.Both of them had the delicious surkumba which was served in large steel bowls by Eeshaan s mother.Four bowls of sweet and Aryan had his tummy filled to the limit.Then soon both of them moved to Eeshaan s room where they were all eager to watch the India Australia cricket match which was being played in Eden Gardens Kolkata.India had won the toss and decided to bat first.Like all Indians who s adrenaline pumps when Sachin faces Lee same was the case with both Eesh and Aryan.Just 2 overs into the match and both the openers Sachin and Sehwag had started blasting Aussie pacemen all over the park.Both frenz were jumping and shouting around as if they themselves were in Kolkata stands.Soon there was a knock at the window of the room.Eeshaan moved and opened the window.”Can you please stop shouting and lower the volume Eeshaan; I have my exams tomorrow” came the voice.Aryan too looked at the window pane only to synchronize the voice and shimmering eyes of the previous evening.He tried his best to reach the window to see who was it.Just before he reached the pane Eesh shut it and again all that Aryan could see were those black eyes which had looped him the previous evening.Suddenly he acted all normal and asked Eeshaan,”Who is that gal? Never seen her before around?”…She s Afreen.Our distant relative from Ahmedabad.During the riots she lost her father and few months back she moved here with her mother to the house above.Her mother works in a bank and she is giving her B.Ed exams externally.With all relatives here her mother finds our city safe it seems.She keeps telling that one final job she ll finish off and stay peaceful all her life in our neighborhood.Anyways why waste time talking about them lets just enjoy Sachin keep these arrogant aussies at bay.

Soon after India s innings was over Aryan had to leave;but one thing kept troubling him.The face which had made him almost restless had just eluded him by a moment today.He came out of the house and as soon as he kicked to started his bike,he s leg slipped off the kick bar and it rebounded.”Oh Shit Oh shit”..shouted Aryan in pain.Soon then he heard a laugh from the balcony above the house.He could see a fair girl with curled earrings long hair let down standing and laughing out loud.She had worn a sky blue salwar which was of lucknowi material.And yes those were the same eyes which he was thinking about all through.Her beauty made him still for a few seconds.He stood there looking at her laugh with a smile of “cute boy” on his face.After this brief beauty encounter he started his bike and moved.All through the way he kept smiling at himself.He was smitten by Afreen s beauty.Only thing he could see around him was her face and hear was her laughter.Soon he talked to himself and said..It just happen.

That day in the evening he had to get back to Mumbai.As he got into the bus and sat after bidding a good bye to his parents he started dreaming about the girl.He did not know what she had done to him, but everything he saw,thought,felt was she around him.Even after reaching Mumbai,he would often go dazed and lost in his class.Th guy who was hyperactive in all activities was found wandering alone in canteen and corridors.He kept telling his frenz about the whole incident with Afreen,the gal who had stolen his heart.He kept repeating the episode again and again to his frenz.Being a great artist himself he had drawn several sketches of her face.Infact in a sketch he had shown her face in different moods.Soon he was famous as “Lover Boy “in his college.All he talked was about Afreen;but everyone wondered…this guy hasn talked to her,spent time with her…still he s so much into her.Barely a month later Aryan had almost prepared himself to go to his hometown and meet her and tell her how much he loves her.Being strong and as practical as possible he was also ready to give her time if she wanted  for the reply.

He reached his city and soon drove his bike that morning right to the street adjacent to her house and walked.As he walked he saw Eeshaan step out of his house.”Hey Aryan..suprise surprise..how come you here..at this time…today!!!”Aryan wasn prepared to answer all these questions.He soon took Eeshaan to the play ground nearby and told him his love story.For a second Eeshaan was shocked to core, he couldn believe the most practical and sensible guy of his college could go crazy on gal whom he had just seen once.After Aryan was done he spoke” I think you should go back to Mumbai and not waste any more time on this.”Aryan questioned” Why u sayin so”..whats the issue tell me..i know she and me are from different religion but I can convince both our parents if she agrees.”…Theres no question of bloody convincing anyone..just forget it…eeshaan shouted.

After the storm calmed down Eesh sat beside Aryan and told what all had happen..

Afreen s marriage was fixed to an accountant in Eeshaan s company.But one of the guys working in Ghani chacha s garage had a thing for her.He kept following her everywhere she went in the city.He also had approached her but she had clearly denied any talk with him.That guy was one of those slimy uneducated uncouth people staying in the same street as she.As soon as he came to know about Afreen s marriage he went wild.He and his frenz beat her groom a week before marriage and threatened him not to marry Afreen.Groom refused to marry stating his reason as he had seen Afreen and the guy going around the city.This brought down her image in the entire society.Everyone started cursing her and often those garage guys used to comment cheap on her.So one day morning her mother couldn find her in house.On her bed was a letter folded inwards.Afreen had left the city and fled.She had written that she couldn take flak she received from the society and even her mother wasn capable of supporting her.So she had applied for a job and fortunately she had got it.She had left all of us and just gone away.Her mother still awaits a letter from Afreen about here whereabouts.After that I also found my scrapbook missing.I thought she would atleast contact me..but no news yet.Just hope she is safe.Anyways Aryan I think you have a great future mate don’t let it go.Get back to Mumbai and concentrate on your studies.

Aryan came back to Mumbai very next day.The moment he came into his room he burst out into tears.He had he sketches all over his room.He could feel wat the girl would have undergone after everything happen to her.Whole nite he kept sobbing in his bed without opening the door of his room for an entire day.Next day he decided to get over it and begin his life in a much better and strong way.He looked at his in the mirror ;he s eyes were bulged and looked weak.He got ready and  stepped outside his room and walked into the crowd moving towards his college.He was just as normal as he was when he had joined the college.A month passed by and it was time for the college annual fest.Aryan was incharge of the whole fest.He used to leave his room early and get back late.One evening when he came back to his room he found a box lying outside the door.It was wrapped with a red paper and seemed heavy.He immediately opened the cover and found a round glazed mug which was had words written on it..”To someone who always cared for someone from the someone was cared “..also written was the address of the sender..It read Miss.Afreen Teacher  Indian High School Bandra Mumbai…Very next day in the morning he took a bus to Bandra  with a bag which had all her sketches in it and most importantly he had worn THE KURTA from where it had all begun!!!

ashwath

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Performances lost in loss!!!

August 30, 2009

From past few months i ve seen movies in which i have seen some mindblowing performances by actors/actresses..but they i guess they couldn fetch great laurels coz the movie was a flop…I short the performances were lost in the loss of the movie…..

1.Madhuri Dixit in the movie Lajja–This is one movie which i believe saw lot of amazin performances going unnoticed..Out of which Madhuri s was the best! Sply the scene in which she potrays Sita on stage who has to undergo angeepareeksha she was top notch..i still feel the questions she raises in that are valid and i am still searchin for answers for those..All in all a performance which would have surely fetched her another national award after Mrityudand….

http://videos.desishock.net/31528/Madhuri-Dixit-(Lajja-part-13)

2.Manisha Koirala in the movie Lajja–Again speakin about this movie..Manisha Koirala plays the charecter of Vaidehi, who walks out on her husband and finds that she is not the only one who has been opressed. The story is told through her eyes as the narrator.But he best act comes in the end where she shouts “Lajja aati hai”..trust me i had seen this movie in a theatre and i was shaken by that climax…It is truly manisha at her best after Khamoshi….

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3.Irrfan in Ghaath–I remember watchin this movie when i was in 7th std..on local channel..Manoj Bajpai and Om puri star in this movie which speaks about Mumbai land mafia..and yeah Irrfan was as scary as Gabbar of sholay..With his Character “Mamu”..i believe he carved a niche for himself as the sensitive cold blooded villain.Even in the climax he monologue by him is flawless..yes Irrfan..u had arrived in bollywood.

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4.Aishwarya Rai and Ajay Devgan in Raincoat–If anyone s seen this Ghosh s movie which is an adaption of a Bengali short story u ll see how with minimal sets and screenplay effective performances can be etched out to the core..Be someone as classy as Ajay or prolific as Aish..both gave out their best acts..but couldn save the movie from sinkin at box office..the seen where they lie about their financial statuses is truly touchin..none other than seasoned actors like these two would have pulled off a role like this…

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Sometimes he missed her..sometimes she…

August 9, 2009

As his cell backlight lit he with utmost anxiety pressed the read button to see wat was her reply.It wasn the case that he feared rejection but being quite a person who liked things tro go smoothly rather perfectly he hoped that reply would come something as he expected.He suddenly flipped he s cell reverse and once again went through all those moments he had lived with her..thought not really lived..but some imagined..some felt and some which he just spent with her on cyberspace…

Aakash layed back in his bed stepped down the memory lane recalling his first meet with Amrita..which was much of disarray owing to his professional attitude for which some pple around him loved him for.It was about a discussion for his college s cultural day celebrations and he being a coordinater was quite a bit stern on getting jobs meticulously done by his juniors and yeah she was one..After few words of sounding like THE SENIOR around the meet was over and jobs wre distributed..there was a month lay off for festival celebration getting back was the event.Not that he noticed her too well..but definitely his attitude wasn suppossed to be taken in the best of ways by her..

A month passed off and time of the event came and here he was carefully observing the practices which wre on full swing..A small mistake and he would burst out at pple responsible for that..he also burst out at her group..that was pretty loud and came from within..none of his juniors had ever seen him as ferocious as this..”where are the bloody expressions he screamed”;after the dance was over.things calmed down gradually and practices continued..

how far can cyberspace be in introducing pple and gettin to know each other well..yeah till now he was just a random senior to her and was the same..He came from a distant place in northern India and she was from glam city Mumbai…so the ice never broke for either of them as a formal introduction..till then they were bound by the cyber space and finally talks began…they varied from being a selfless youth to an ambitious student of life and its practicalities.

Their conversations would always be focussed at two different views both of them held.The chat would be filled with examples both of them would have in everyday life and end in a stalemate.But again wat was best about these chats was that later when both of them would be alone they would think as how each others perspectives are perfectly justified in their particular life and would also increase the respect for each other..not in chats but only in their minds and hearts!!!!Kind of understanding that grew between them was something both of them never expected…

One day while chattin online..Aakash as usual was multi-taskin…he was talkin about 4 different topics to 4 diffi pple..thats when he accidently sent a msg to amrita which was suppossed to be sent to someone else..the msg said “As a girl you were rite in your place..as a guy i m rite..so wat is the prob”…this msg was actually adressed to his cousin as they discussin about restrictions in their house..but the misdirected msg exactly carried a different meanin n msg to Amrita…jus when he tried to re-correct himself..he s connection to the internet was lost…he tried to send her a SMS..but it was past 12 on 31st day..so he had lost his balance  of his cell fone also..whole nite he kept thinkin the way the msg would have been percieved by her..wat would be her reaction…But somewhere he knew wat he never could do with intentions..he had just done tat!!!though he couldn digest that fact…for the next 2 days.he didn reply any of her msgs..which seeked explaination as why he wasn replyin…but again he was in confusion as which would be the best explaination…all these times he started missin her!!coz whenever he thought of sharin the smallest of happy news..he had none…he didn have clue where he s life was headin to..was confused to core..

but somewhere at the back of his mind he new it was the time for him to build on his ambitions…dreams..which he had seen write from the time he had come to the silicon valley…so he decided to clear the void that had been created due to his “no response” attitude…so he sent a msg to her tellin wat all he had undergone and how exactly he knew wat he wanted from life…and yeah he waited for the reply!!!!

jus then he received a msg from her..it said..”Dude..come online..loads of things to tell u”

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the reason i blog…i had said..will say again..

July 20, 2009

well it was between my exams durin my 4th semester i started bloggin..reason–had failed to get anger..frustration or jus let my voice flow out in best possible way..so started writing…and yaeh it had its moments…i almost bcame an avid blogger..writin frequently..i wrote about my old diary excerpts…my wriiten short stories…experiences of life..successes..failures..and then suddenly somehow was a small hiberantion..Blame my college activities for this..infact this sem was FILLED UPTO NECK for me..slog for a month for our Dept Tech Fest..me being the Co-ordinater had an extra bit of effort to pump in..Again i hate my over enthusiatic affection towards such activities..i did get drained out but had no option..April 17th finished the fest then came in The National Level debate in my college which i was the conevener..for 3 days of the event run all the way and yeah also judge some of the best debates of the life..then done with this on april 27th next came our Internal Assessments!!!the very next day..cant believe way i wrote and managed to score..but was HAPPY doin all this..could work ..enjoy at my pace..my style…so i guess never blogged..coz no frustration..no anger!!

But as English poetry emphasizes on Blow Blow Thou winter wind.Thou art not so Unkind!!i believe times had to change..somethin somewhere had to happen which bring me face to face with one of the greatest personifications Life could get..”LIFE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES”..seems trivial..but hits the nail rite on the coffin!!!when things suddenly aren in your hands..when u struggle to get things rite..But somewhere luck eludes u..mockin at ur attempt makin it seem too foolish and meaningless..thats when a pain creeps in and disturbs you from within..the laughter on face n sparks of happyness are only participative not a part of u…not that i haven felt these things before..but this time i feel its not the normal scare or fear..yaa and again its the reason i m bloggin today..its my anger..my frustration..which i need to spit out..and i know this venom which m lettin out mite harm my relationships..so i feel its the best for me and for the wonderful pple around me..

My mom says–a person always gives his best when he s heart pounds the most..yearns the most..wat man doesn know he ll be rewarded somehow someway..but yeah he will..only thing he can do is survive these times and hold the threads of relations with love n care..and see them grow to be your greatest support..

i second ur thought mom!!!as always!!!

hopin to be soon happy_angry frustrated son of urs!!

ashwath……

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sometime later..its still haunting me…..

May 7, 2009

well my bloggin had almost got a semi-colon b4 i realized i need to get back to wat i enjoyed the most about 2 months ago…and here m back again..perhaps reason m bloggin..same reason why i started off bloggin..to say somethin i always wanted to but couldn..or said it but none understood close to wat i felt..

well was goin thru an amazin period of life..our college winnin the VTU fest for the first time..m walkin the fashion ramp..showin my exploits in biz events..in short;life at its best…then came in The Christ Parliamentary Debate on feb 28 n march 1…Christ Coll s been quite a hunting ground for me so i really hoped i could make most out of this tournament..Infact i did get an amazin team also..consistin of Aniket(whom i always wanted in my team as i knew both of  us could rip teams apart) and Upasana(finest speakers to come into our debsoc this season)…so here we wre as MSRIT A team to compete in the debates…

Well first debate was quite a run-up with us MSR Law team with unanimous win…then came in one of my fav debates in my debatin career..against National Law School of India University..the institute which produces all asian champion debaters..Being opposition we did an awesome job hopin tat brand name NLSIU could be beaten at last..and yes we did beat NLSIU..Man..if i ever felt so satisfied in my debatin life..it was this moment..We then had another one debate which we won comfortably and yes i was in first Semi-Final of my life..Felt great to go into the tourney as not exactly a winnin team n do this well…Semi finals was with one of our coll teams itself..which we manage to beat comfortably…then came in the moments which i had waited all through my life…

i remember walkin thru the corridors of christ coll at 7 in evenin thinkin wat will happen in the FINALS  of the debate..i remember watchin cricketeers warmin up b4 the finals of a world cup match and hear to preview of the match..felt the same adreline rush in my body..couldn jus believe wat was happenin arnd me..had my entire debsoc there for me cheerin and wantin to win first ever debate championship for the coll…and i too hoped for the same..tat winnin against arch-rivals RVCE would be great..wat i was scared is wat if i lost the debate..and i wasn wrong…

after a group hug we entered the debate room…after the prep time the debate began with our team in the opposition..i must say all three of us gave best speeches of our life on a skewed line of thought proposed by the other team..sply aniket who went in as the first speaker from our side managed to do a gem of a job..never saw him so aggressive in debate b4..he was on fire..after the debate was overwe all waited for the verdict..though we knew we had given our best shot..still somewhere i believed a win or loss mattered to me.. a lot!!!

result was out and we had lost the debate..though at tat moment i thought it was just another debate to lose didn know wat it wud to me..tat nite i remember goin thru the whole debate..even in my dreams i had same lines of wat i spoke echoed..the next day was also in a sullen mood..not knowin wat to do ..kept thinkin wat more could i ve done to win the debate…found plenty of things but of no use..couldn repair wat had happen…left me restless..this has still continued..even now whenever i m idle..i go into tat debate..still remember word to word wat happen in tat debate..wat the other team said..wat we replied..its still fresh wat i saw..the losing moments and RVCE rejoicing their way thru…all of it wat i call a perfect nightmare…dont know how long it will trouble me..hope i get my same team and go again to christ next year and win the tournament to bury the ghosts of 1st march 2009..till then i need to wait..and try treatin worst nightmare of my life!!!

ashwath

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BOLLYWOOD INFORMALS

May 3, 2009

1.If Govinda has the tag No.1(coolie no 1,hero no 1)…wat does Akshay Kumar has as his trademark—
2.RAJ,RAHUL,VEER—connect them—-
3.Which two beauty queens alongside akshay kumar in the movie Andaaz—
4.Kajol s name in the movie DDLJ—
5.”Seven cities claimed Homer dead where living Homer begged his bread”—which movie am I talkin abt???
6.Complete the trio DOOSRA KEVAL,FAUJI,—
7.Which movie is a remake of the Hollywood flick Seven Brides for Seven Brothers—
8.Karan Johar :SRK::Prakash Mehra:–
9.Naseeruddin Shah bowls and Sunil Gavaskar bats..which movie(paisa hi paisa)—
10.India s first official entry into Oscars(jai mata di)—
11.All three Khans together on screen once..which movie—
12.If I am watchin hollywood flick West Side Story which bollywood film can I relate it to—
13.I can call it most illogical scene I ve been a part of..Big B sayd this..wat is he talkin abt??:–
14.If I played the role of an idiot called Robert in ANDAAZ APNA APNA..wat was i in SHOLAY—
15.Aishwarya Rai s first TV appearance was for which ad—
16.Imran Khan was first time on screen(bachcha role)—
17.Govinda ,Dharmendra,Hema Mailini—common thing in these bollywood stars—
18.ChoriChori:Aamir Khan::Shri 420:–
19.if I am humming songs..”main yahaan hoon” and “EK ladki ko dekha toh”..apart from Javed Akhtar s lyrics wats common in these movies.—
20.Previously titled Yajna..this made it to the Oscars—
21.If I am seein the beautiful gardens of Holland on screen which were for the first time shown in a Bollywood movie..which song am I seein..(BIG B)
22.I have been a part of 2 Blockbusters biggest in Indian cinema..one was biggest hit of its times..other Oscar entry..who am i..(old man!!)

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Cricinfo International Scores

February 8, 2009
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The big Indian fat FAMILY wedding!!

February 2, 2009

As i quote here the verbatim meaning of marriage from the oxford dictionary which states tat its association of two pple coming together making an alliance to stay together..but as i mention in the very topic of my post as Family wedding..hence i stick to this defn of mine sayin that marriage is not only as alliance of two individuals but also a culmination of two family s in themselves..i guess by now u must have interpreted the rest of the word s meaning..i.e Big is obvious the magnitude of relationships involved..Fat is the proportion of this celebration called marriage..and yes above all the fulcrum of my whole defn of this post..INDIAN!!!

this is been a post which mainly involves my view of wat marriages mean to me(trust me;m still not a grad)..sply in our community every event or action carried out by the bride or groom s side has an articulate meanin..be it performin of pooja s at home which mainly signifies the beginin of a good func at home or the invitin of guests..

next wat i ve loved the most in all our family marriages is the evenin b4 marriage..the dance..the hulla..the masti..i still remember dancin at all my cousin s weddin..my atrocious yet cult dancin made sure pple still sometimes stare at me not only on the street where i danced but also the band members of who played the music..here i d sply like to mention the typical tunes played by petty yet large heated bands of belgaum which are truly amazin..moreover they are so infectious tat once when me and cousin had actually been to book the band we did do a jig at a stranger s marriage procession..and yes the crowd too jeered there..one of the most memorable incis i remember is durin my sister s marriage…the 1/2 a km procession path actually took abt 1 1/2 hrs to be completed with the groom s side too being entusiastic pple..we also made the dulha do a bit of leg shakin..later it was also the turn of bride s and groom s parents to chain up and dance!!trust me t was great fun…and yes add to the infamous naagin dance between me and my cousin!!!

next comes wat i can say is the most imp func acc to me..time of introduction of relatives of  both sides..in our language we call it edurigolluvudu..its a formal way in which the counterparts are introduced to each other..why i feel this is imp is that.when we talk abt somethin like a marriage..there the relation is not only knit between two pple but also the whole set of pple associated between two pple..for a new relation to begin theres always a need for ice breakin session which indeed is this program..i too ve been a part of this many times and yes it has made me realize tat the world is indeed small..

next comes on the ceremony of formally invitin the groom for the marriage..where the bride s side ask the groom and his parents to come over for the func..i ve always been a part of discussions(mostly with gals of my age in my family)as why is it so that bride s parents are involved in playin the bent fiddle roles..this is exactly wat i refute..when u are talkin abt marryin off ur daughter(the integral part of ur family) u need to see that u show it to the groom s side tat we love our gal..u too better love her the same way in our house..this is why their love is transformed into so much enthusiasm durin the course of marriage..this i believe signifies that no side is ever at the receivin end..and sply in todays wat i can say educated world its always the balancin act..

the next of the act durin the marriage is pretty synonymous in all communities where both lead stars give their consent and begin the journey of lifetime..here too wat i believe is the most significant part is that they give in their consent in presence of well wishers n frenz..meanin tomo u refute of the decision..u make a fool of yourself..moreover it brings in a sense of responsibilty of both of em to chalk the road ahead..

now comes the session which i shall hate throughout my life..i still the tears rollin down and throat bulgin when my eldest cousin got married(i was in 7th) to the way i hid in my mom s pallu durin my sister s time of leavin after marriage..tat moment there s a flashback of all events come in front of ur eyes tat u ve shared with em..it may be the when u laughed ur guts out for the silliest of jokes to the times u simply fought with em over a trivial issue..all those petty incidents go on connectin till u realize..she s finally leavin my house!!!i still remember the way i glance thru all my snaps with my sis on the nite after her weddin..

on the contrary when as a family we wre returnin bac from my bro-cousin s marriage there wre glimpses as how the marriage went and  chats and antakshari sessions rite thru the train journey with numerous digs at pple arnd..also there was this feelin of how to talk to the new member in the family..tat feelin melts down slowly however..

this post of mine can be called my micro-scopic view of wat a marriage is..but still this is wat i ve seen and percieved..but frankly speakin the big indian fat weddings are still incomplete without FAMILY..

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angers me!! certainly….

January 23, 2009

i usually blog when either m very frustrated or i m moved by somethin which i witness..well wat m witnessin now is belgaum legislation session at JNMC audi with speaker askin members to occupy their seats and so called members screamin their guts out after a good round of hoggin at delicious cuisine and sound sleep at the air conditioned hall…but by wat i m frustrated is the way 26/11 convict  Ajmal Amir kasab s case is bein handled..not tat m a staunch non-believer of human rights for criminals but i feel its too bad for the judiciary to keep failin consistantly..its been happenin again and again..i still remember when indian judiciary in order to prove itself just and equal has displayed its non-functionality at various levels..let me begin..

after the mumbai blasts when the police gathered proof against D company chief..menon family and many hard core hand in glove people..wat did the judiciary do..it declared tat every person has a right to fight untill proven guilty..i agree to it..but if such proofs are available why do u want to give them the slightest of chance to escape..wats the use of police probin and collectin proofs when they only have to see the arrested pple stay in hi-fi jails temporarily or keep avoidin the judgements by shiftin ahead of the dates..wat remains in the end is an easy to  make or break system which can be manipulated carelessly..the same thing happen tat time also..our chief justice declared anyone to could fight dawood ibrahim s case..then arose or country s so called best lawyer and now politician Ram Jethmalani who was fightin D s case..jus think of the situation..u have the best lawyer of the nation on the opp side..i don feel its wrong to call it an assault on our democracy considerin the delayed judgements already in favour of guilty and accused..our premier lawyer rolled his best dice to ensure tat D company was intact fillin his bank account and partyin at henchmens farm houses in nation and abroad..i wud like to ask why was it necessary to give such a kind of let off to a person whom everyone knew was guilty..where was the bar association which strikes every fortnight for increase in hike to govt lawyers..why dint it stop mr.malani from takin dawood s case..why did mr.malani think tat his profession comes b4 the security of the nation..its coz of tat failure we can attribute many of underworld and terrorists funds still active at our neighbours house(pakistan)..

speakin of the current situation..wats happenin now..the person arrested RED-HANDED..one of thosewho killed our officers like hemant karkare..major unnikrishnan..still languishin in best available GUEST HOUSES of our nation..reason–our judiciary which says..his not been proven guilty..so he s our guest from neighbourin nation..and again CJI declares he can hire a lawyer to fight..has the CJI forgotten the loss of lives in india..the uproar it caused in minds and hearts of every indian..the march protests at gateway of india which the media gleefully highlighted..so tat terrorist can walk back to his land lke a hero or keep his trial pendin as in the case of ansari(the parliament attack convict)..is this the reason why we muct be proud of the judiciary..proud of democracy..i certainly don think so..wat it ll infact lead to is acts of extremism by our very own pple who want answers from politicians..courts..judges and yes  more whom they call FELLOW-INDIANS…..

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everythin historic!!!

January 11, 2009

i had begun writin this entry some months back..but had no trigger to bring it out..but last evenin when i happen to see some videos..i really thought..this one is indeed historic which i shall cherish throughout my life..don know why i couldn think of it untill these vacations..i remember my great grandpa tellin me stories of how he was arrested by british and how they planned an escape..and i always thought..damn..why did the britishers leave.i ll have no stories to tell my grandchildren..tat too not only a normal story..but an eventful one..

rite from my school life i always thought representin my school… college..and even country..and more importantly winning it and winnin against my fav opposition..i still remember winnin 2nd in group dance competition in which we had beaten a our rival GALS school..god!!the way we d celebrated it..i still rememeber it..

when i talk abt this particular incident..my fingers still freeze..throat swells up..it was the 5 round of IIT delhi parliamentarydebate..i was sittin with my teamates waitin for the match ups to be announced..we d lost the prev two rounds so this was mighty crucial for us..a win would brighten our chances to quarters..still we had to keep every step watchfully..the screen lit on stage and theme appeared on it as SPORTS..the whole croud roared with enthusiasm..it was the theme every team was waitin for..then came the match ups.i could feel my heart poundin in my brain…then came another screen flash and came the match ups..it was MSRIT B(my team) v/s LSE Lahore..my heart skipped a beat..paki teams are known for their eloquence and more importantly amazin line of thought..we bein engineers had a single weapon..LOGIC!!!all teams started movin towards the respective venues for the debate..we had to wait in hall as tat was our place..since our opp team waz an international team we had IIT D profs too watchin the debate..then came the toss..we won the tos and decided to go as proposition or government..then we had to decide upon the topic of the three given to us..it was abt CRICKET..so this is why this debate is too close to my heart..jus imagine why i call it historic..its INDIA v/s PAKISTAN..in DELHI..and on CRICKET!!!!simply historic to the core for me..the topic was abt whether newer technology was needed in cricket..basically referred to the use of sneekometer and referrel system to the third umpire..we exactly put on the same case in front of the opposition and mind it the player s referrel system wasn in place or discussion..i had thought of it..thanks to my minuscule love for tennis..i knew such a system existed there and thought why not in cricket!!!

we did catch them offguard with such a case..but still paki teams are fighters(like cricketeers) sply when playin against india sply when we put cricket in place..i happen to be the last speaker from my team..so i knew the pressure was on me..though my first two speakers had done an exemplanory job..still i had to finish it off..as i wen on to speak..i looked at the audience..their faces as tensed as viewers of the last ball of LAGAAN mtch..the judges waitin for me sprout a word..the opposition waitin for me to make a mistake..i began in quite a husky voice but as began rebuttin..i became more louder and agressive..it was this moment i waited for my so many years..a chance to stand wearin a badge india and fight the war(of words) against pakistan(my fav opp) on platform of cricket(my religion)..i remember as i finished my speech i dunno wat the audience did i jus walked back to my team and asked them howz it..they told me it was my best till date..then they told me it was more of experience for an audience as it was not just an amazin debate speech but also an appeal to their hearts as why we must win the debate!!!this made me a lot lighter..

finally when results wre out..we d won the debate!!i rememeber i almost went crazy on streets on IIT D..runnin all thru them..yellin..for others its was just a debate which we d won..for me it was a dream..which still is fleshy in my grey matter(and will always be)..thus it was an expereince which i shall never forget(a good story to my grandchildren)…

INDEED HISTORIC !!!